What is cyber bullying and how to deal with it
Posted by cfhi at December 3rd, 2014
Cyber bullying is bullying with use of electronic technology. It is usually carried out with computers, tablets, cell phones etc through social media sites, chat, text message and other websites. It is to harm or harass a person repeatedly and deliberately. It may go to extent of publishing materials to humiliate and defame persons.
With advancement in information technology, it is very common in teenagers and kids. It has been well defined in legal terms in a number of countries. Cell phone is the most common medium to carry out bullying. It is considered very convenient source of bullying as one need not to be face-to-face with the victim. Victimization of girls is more common in cyber bullying.
It is very difficult to know exact number of persons reported being cyber bullied. It may happen to all age groups. Approximately one in four teens admitted that they were bullied at some stage. Out of 6 teens, one also admitted that he/she bullied someone. Sometimes bullying is by accident because of impersonal matters of text message sent by non detectable sender.
Signs which are common in victimized persons may be summed up. The victim shall be emotionally upset after use of communication device. The victim shall be very secretive or protective of one’s digital life and will shy in meeting with friends and family members. He/she will not like to talk in group and will be nervous on getting email, text message or phone call. His/her mood, sleep pattern, behavior, appetite and reaction to friends’ response shall change.
Effects of cyber bullying are very serious. One feels non stop blasting with no scope of escape. It may cause depression, anxiety, stress and other related problems on frequent cyber bullying. Problem is that the victim who is generally a youth or kid never reports this type of victimization to parents. There is high risk of suicidal attempts and thoughts. Under deep stress, cases of suicides have also been reported.
Lot of patience is needed in dealing with cyber bullying. Parents are the best persons to guide the victimized teens, girls, boys and kids. It is a type of crime. If recognized well, the bully may be suspended from school or kicked off from sports team. He/she may be blocked on electronic devices as almost all the devices have settings for this.
Parental control options on electronic devices help to read the text messages and emails. They can know online life of teens and kids. Parents can advice them to maintain a secured password and never to share personal information with unknown persons and even with suspicious friends. The victim should be trained to withstand frustration, hurt, anger and all the strong emotions with healthy thinking.
If you are parent of a bully, tell him/her the ill effects of bullying, joking or teasing. Tell him/her that its continuance may result in serious consequences for him/her in school, society and home. Give a meditation therapy or arrange a meeting with Counselor and also the school teacher.
If you need more information or help on cyber bullying and how to deal with it, we suggest you visit stopbullying.gov. Hope we can togegher stop cyber bullying and leave our kids a better cyber life.